Lesson from my motorcycle accident
I lived in Scotland for several years while I growing up. Every-other-summer we got to come back to the States to visit family and friends. The summer I was 12 we spent a lot of time with our cousins riding dirt bikes. We rode on the dirt road between my cousins’ home and my grandparent’s home; we rode along the wheat fields and to go do chores; but our favorite place to ride was on my uncle’s dirt runway because it was smooth and straight and we could pick up some speed.
Since I’m not really the adventurous type, I was usually behind one of my cousins on their bike, but eventually they made me learn how to drive. So, late in the summer, when my brother left for a week to go to football camp, his dirt bike became mine for the week.
One afternoon, as I was cruising down the runway, enjoying the wind in my face, I suddenly realized that the runway was soon coming to an end and I was going way too fast for the bumpy ruts I was headed for. Up until this time I hadn’t really gone super-fast while driving so I hadn’t yet learned about the danger of trying to slow down too fast.
So I fish-tailed. And then I crashed. And the 1255cc dirt bike landed on me, with the hot engine burning through the skin on the inside of my right leg.
My cousin got me back home where my second-degree burns were taken care of, but I remember I really wasn’t so concerned about my leg. What had me most worried was that my brother was going to be mad because I crashed his brand new dirt bike.
That worry tortured me for several days. (This was way before cell phones and constant communication, so my brother didn’t know about what happened until he got back from his football camp.) I worried because he had trusted me enough to let me use his dirt bike and I didn’t take very good care of it and now it was scratched up. I worried because I didn’t like it when he was mad at me.
Imagine my surprise the night my brother arrived home and the first thing he did was come and make sure I was OK. He wasn’t too worried about his bike, but he was concerned about me and my bandaged leg.
So, I had spent several days worrying about something that never happened. What a waste of time.
How much time do you spend worrying about things that haven’t happened yet? Do you worry that your son will give up all the good things you’ve taught him? Do you worry that he might not marry the right girl since he’s no longer associating with the Church? Do you worry that you’ll never have your whole family together in the temple?
Sure ~ all these things might happen. But it’s also true that they might not. Worrying ahead of time just ensures you get to worry either way.
What could you do with the time you currently spend worrying about something that hasn’t happened yet? I spend that time living my life and nurturing myself so I can better show up as the kind of person I want to be, especially in my relationship with my son.
If you’re ready to stop pre-worrying but aren’t quite sure how to make the change, schedule a free mini-session and I’ll show you how. Life is certainly better with less worry.