As the mom of three boys, and a member of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints, I assumed that my boys’ testimony in the Gospel would grow right along with them. Yet, as my oldest was serving a Church mission on the other side of the world, his brother started talking about doubt in the things he had learned his entire life and he didn’t know if the Church was true. He kept coming to church with us and participating in his Quorum and other church activities, but it was clear that his heart wasn’t in it. This was the beginning of two of my sons eventually walking away from the Church.

What’s a mother to do? First of all, I spent some time studying “agency” and deciding whether or not *I* believed it was the “right” way. I eventually came to the conclusion that Heavenly Father had it right. I knew I hated to be forced to do anything; I also knew that while force might change things on the surface, what I really wanted and prayed for was a change of heart for my boys.

About Me

As the mom of three boys, and a member of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints, I assumed that my boys’ testimony in the Gospel would grow right along with them. Yet, as my oldest was serving a Church mission on the other side of the world, his brother started talking about doubt in the things he had learned his entire life and he didn’t know if the Church was true. He kept coming to church with us and participating in his Quorum and other church activities, but it was clear that his heart wasn’t in it. This was the beginning of two of my sons eventually walking away from the Church.

What’s a mother to do? First of all, I spent some time studying “agency” and deciding whether or not *I* believed it was the “right” way. I eventually came to the conclusion that Heavenly Father had it right. I knew I hated to be forced to do anything; I also knew that while force might change things on the surface, what I really wanted and prayed for was a change of heart for my boys.

I also spent a lot of time feeling like a failure. Surely there had to be something I could have and should have done differently so all my boys would have developed their own solid testimonies of the truthfulness of the Gospel and understand that including Christ in their lives would make life better, not worse. And yet, in an honest evaluation of my mothering I knew that each step along the way I had truly done my best to help them gain and nourish their own testimonies. Perhaps I really had done all I could.

So I decided that however this all turned out ~ whether my boys ever came back to the Church or not ~ I wanted to maintain a good relationship with each of them. I’ve seen mother/son relationships become really strained when the son stops being active in the Church. I didn’t want that for us.

Throughout this journey with my boys I decided I wanted to become a Life Coach. Early on in my training my heart turned to other parents with teens walking away from the religious foundation they have been nurtured in, and I knew these were the people I wanted to help.

While I was already in a pretty good place with my first son who had left the Church, there were still these underlying feelings of failure in my mothering ~ until I had a huge epiphany at training ~ a moment that truly changed the entire way I see myself as a mother, a wife, a daughter, a sister, a friend. This pivotal moment has even drawn me closer to my Heavenly Father in ways I couldn’t imagine. Here’s what I learned about myself as I was learning about all the tools I now use to help other women:

I am enough.

It sounds so simple, yet it was so far from my grasp, so foreign to how I always saw myself because I truly didn’t know I so staunchly believed I wasn’t enough in everything, especially parenting.

When I returned home with this new awareness and a sincere desire to get comfortable believing that I’m enough in all aspects of my life, there was definitely something different about me. My husband noticed it. My son still living at home noticed it. My mom even noticed a difference. And so did my friends. Knowing that “I’m enough” has changed not only the way I feel about myself, but also the way I show up in all of my relationships ~ with my husband and friends, with people at church, and most importantly, with my sons, whether or not they are on the Gospel path.

And here’s the craziest thing ~ when I look back over my life since the time I learned about these tools I now teach to other parents, while the actual circumstances of my life have gotten harder and the choices some of my sons are making are even further from where I always hoped and prayed for them to be, this actually has been one of the best years of my life in terms of less headaches, more peace, more understanding, better relationships with all of my boys (and my husband!), and I’ve never felt more connected to my Heavenly Father and my Savior, Jesus Christ.

This is why I’m so passionate about helping other parents who find themselves living in fear because a child or two (or more) are literally walking away from the religious foundation you’ve tried so hard to plant and cultivate over the years. You will be a better parent when you’re not operating from a place of constantly feeling like a failure. You will be better able to hear God’s whisperings and feel His love when your despair has given way to peace. And you’ll be a better example of handling any situation from a place of faith and love instead of from disappointment and regret.

If you’re ready to move pass your own fear, despair, and regret, then it’s time to sign up for a free 30-minute mini-session with me.

During this time I’ll show you the power of coaching as we take a look at one of your current parenting struggles and I’ll show you how you can start feeling better right away.  Afterwards, if it looks like you’re a good fit for my Find Peace in Parenting coaching I’ll explain how it works and you can decide if it’s right for you.  There is no obligation and our mini-session is completely confidential.  Either way you will leave the mini-session with some real, actionable help.

If you’re ready to move pass your own fear, despair, and regret, then it’s time to sign up for a free 30-minute mini-session with me.

During this time I’ll show you the power of coaching as we take a look at one of your current parenting struggles and I’ll show you how you can start feeling better right away.  Afterwards, if it looks like you’re a good fit for my Find Peace in Parenting coaching I’ll explain how it works and you can decide if it’s right for you.  There is no obligation and our mini-session is completely confidential.  Either way you will leave the mini-session with some real, actionable help.