As a devoted mom of three boys I used to imagine that if I taught them correct principles all along the way that parenting would become easier as they got older and they would live the kind of lives I wanted for them.  Things were rolling along pretty smoothly until one son started questioning his religious foundation and another son abruptly left home so he could live his life in direct opposition to the things he had been taught his entire life.

What’s a mother to do?  First of all, I spent some time studying “agency” and deciding whether or not *I* believed it was the “right” way.  I eventually came to the conclusion that Heavenly Father had it right.  I knew I hated to be forced to do anything; I also knew that while force might change things on the surface, what I really wanted and prayed for was a change of heart for my boys.

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As a devoted mom of three boys I used to imagine that if I taught them correct principles all along the way that parenting would become easier as they got older and they would live the kind of lives I wanted them to live.  Things were rolling along pretty smoothly until one son started questioning his religious foundation and another son abruptly left home so he could live his life in direct opposition to the things he had been taught his entire life.

What’s a mother to do?  First of all, I spent some time studying “agency” and deciding whether or not *I* believed it was the “right” way.  I eventually came to the conclusion that Heavenly Father had it right.  I knew I hated to be forced to do anything; I also knew that while force might change things on the surface, what I really wanted and prayed for was a change of heart for my boys.

I also spent a lot of time feeling like a failure.  Surely there had to be something I could have and should have done differently so my boys would have developed their own solid testimonies of the Gospel and understand that living honest, responsible lives was a much better choice than gratifying all desires in the moment at the expense of lingering consequences later.  And yet, in an honest evaluation of my mothering I knew that each step along the way I had truly done my best to nurture them and teach them correctly.  Perhaps I really had done all I could.

So I decided that however this all turned out ~ whether or not my boys ever returned to their spiritual roots or to the specific ways they had been raised ~ I wanted to maintain a good relationship with each of them.  I’ve seen parent/child relationships that become really strained when a son or daughter pulls away from the family’s way of doing things.  I didn’t want that for us; I didn’t want that for me.

Throughout this journey with my boys I decided I wanted to become a Life Coach.  My heart has always been drawn to helping strengthen family relationships so it didn’t take me long to decide I wanted to help other moms who feel like they’re in a pit of despair (and there’s no way out) because of the choices their teenage sons are making.

While I was already in a pretty good place with my first son who had chosen to distance himself from our Church, there were still these underlying feelings of failure in my mothering ~ until I had a huge epiphany at training ~ a moment that truly changed the entire way I see myself as a mother, a wife, a daughter, a sister, a friend.  This pivotal moment has even drawn me closer to my Heavenly Father in ways I couldn’t imagine.  Here’s what I realized about myself as I was learning about all the tools I now use to coach other moms:

I am enough.

It sounds so simple, yet it was so far from my grasp, so foreign to my thinking, even my unconscious thinking, because I truly didn’t know it was my underlying thought about myself in everything, especially parenting.

When I returned home from my life coach training with this new awareness and a sincere desire to get comfortable believing that I’m enough in all ways of my life, there was definitely something different about me.  My husband noticed it.  My son still living at home noticed it.  My mom even noticed a difference.  And so did my friends.  Knowing that “I’m enough” has changed not only the way I feel about myself, but also the way I show up in all of my relationships ~ with my husband and friends, with people at church, and most importantly, with my sons, whether or not they are living the way I want them to.

And here’s the craziest thing ~ when I look back over the details of my life since the time I learned about these tools I now teach to other moms, while the actual circumstances of my life have gotten harder and the choices some of my sons are making are even further from where I always hoped and prayed for them to be, my life has actually gotten better in terms of less headaches, more peace, more understanding, better relationships with all of my boys (and my husband!), and I’ve never felt more connected to my Heavenly Father and my Savior, Jesus Christ.

This is why I’m so passionate about helping other parents who find themselves living in fear because a child or two (or more) are literally walking away from the way you’ve raised them.  You will be a better parent when you’re not operating from a place of constantly feeling like a failure.  You will be better able to hear God’s whisperings and feel His love when your despair has given way to peace.  And you’ll be a better example of handling any situation from a place of faith and love instead of from disappointment and regret.

If you’re ready to move pass your own fear, despair, and regret, then it’s time to sign up for a free 30-minute mini-session with me.

During this time I’ll show you the power of coaching as we take a look at one of your current parenting struggles and I’ll show you how you can start feeling better right away.  Afterwards, if it looks like you’re a good fit for my Find Peace in Parenting coaching I’ll explain how it works and you can decide if it’s right for you.  There is no obligation and our mini-session is completely confidential.  Either way you will leave the mini-session with some real, actionable help.

If you’re ready to move pass your own fear, despair, and regret, then it’s time to sign up for a free 30-minute mini-session with me.

During this time I’ll show you the power of coaching as we take a look at one of your current parenting struggles and I’ll show you how you can start feeling better right away.  Afterwards, if it looks like you’re a good fit for my Find Peace in Parenting coaching I’ll explain how it works and you can decide if it’s right for you.  There is no obligation and our mini-session is completely confidential.  Either way you will leave the mini-session with some real, actionable help.